Sunday, 25 July 2010
Friday, 26 February 2010
Do You Have to Let it Linger?
Two blog posts in one night! Woot! I'm on fire!
This blog is actually aimed at someone. Someone that probably won't read this, but it can apply to everyone, really.
People linger too much. They linger on the past, always wondering "What if I did it differently? What if this happened? What if that didn't? Where would I be today? Would I be better off?" People linger on the present. Constantly thinking "how could things be different? Why isn't my life like this? Why did this have to happen? Why?". And of course...the future. "Will this happen? Is this possible? What will tomorrow bring?"
But that's not necessarily the point I want to make. People are so wrapped up in their thoughts, myself included, that they miss the most important things in their lives. They wish that they had never lost contact with that one friend, forgetting that they have other amazing friends. They wish that they had never admitted that one secret, not realising the weight that had been lifted, the strain that they had been relieved of. But mainly, they're so wrapped up in worry and thoughts about themselves that they don't stop to consider other people. You're not the only person hurting right now. You're not the only person that doesn't have everything they want. In fact, you're hurting other people. You're putting pressure on other people, making them uncomfortable, making them angry. You can't help it. We wish you had control over your feelings, but we know that you don't. We just wish that you'd stop being so selfish for one moment to think about the effects that you're having on your peers.
Of course, our anger and discomfort isn't all selfish. We're hurting for you. We're angry because your attitude prevents you from letting go, from taking everything in your stride, for lingering too much on things that...aren't. Please, focus on the good things in your life. We know that you crave change. We know that you're willing to do almost anything to get what you want, but you're praying for the impossible. Just be happy with what you have. Live your life, have no regrets, stop living in your fantasy world in which everything goes exactly how you want it to.
This is the cold, hard truth. It isn't going to happen. I know that your aspirations are high, that you assume that everything is going to work itself out, that you're going to achieve everything that you set your mind to, but failure exists. This is not just a reason to try harder, but a reason to give up. The world isn't a good place. You're not going to soar through it. It's a struggle, a "climb", if you will. Deep down you know that. You know that what you desire the most in the world, quite frankly, isn't going to happen. But you decieve yourself into thinking that it will. That's why you're lingering. You don't want to bury your feelings, you don't want to hide your thoughts, you don't want to leave it all behind and set out on your journey. You just want It. You want It to be handed to you on a platter. You want It to come to you. Well It...won't happen. You're just hurting yourself.
That's why I have to ask...do you have to let it linger?
This blog is actually aimed at someone. Someone that probably won't read this, but it can apply to everyone, really.
People linger too much. They linger on the past, always wondering "What if I did it differently? What if this happened? What if that didn't? Where would I be today? Would I be better off?" People linger on the present. Constantly thinking "how could things be different? Why isn't my life like this? Why did this have to happen? Why?". And of course...the future. "Will this happen? Is this possible? What will tomorrow bring?"
But that's not necessarily the point I want to make. People are so wrapped up in their thoughts, myself included, that they miss the most important things in their lives. They wish that they had never lost contact with that one friend, forgetting that they have other amazing friends. They wish that they had never admitted that one secret, not realising the weight that had been lifted, the strain that they had been relieved of. But mainly, they're so wrapped up in worry and thoughts about themselves that they don't stop to consider other people. You're not the only person hurting right now. You're not the only person that doesn't have everything they want. In fact, you're hurting other people. You're putting pressure on other people, making them uncomfortable, making them angry. You can't help it. We wish you had control over your feelings, but we know that you don't. We just wish that you'd stop being so selfish for one moment to think about the effects that you're having on your peers.
Of course, our anger and discomfort isn't all selfish. We're hurting for you. We're angry because your attitude prevents you from letting go, from taking everything in your stride, for lingering too much on things that...aren't. Please, focus on the good things in your life. We know that you crave change. We know that you're willing to do almost anything to get what you want, but you're praying for the impossible. Just be happy with what you have. Live your life, have no regrets, stop living in your fantasy world in which everything goes exactly how you want it to.
This is the cold, hard truth. It isn't going to happen. I know that your aspirations are high, that you assume that everything is going to work itself out, that you're going to achieve everything that you set your mind to, but failure exists. This is not just a reason to try harder, but a reason to give up. The world isn't a good place. You're not going to soar through it. It's a struggle, a "climb", if you will. Deep down you know that. You know that what you desire the most in the world, quite frankly, isn't going to happen. But you decieve yourself into thinking that it will. That's why you're lingering. You don't want to bury your feelings, you don't want to hide your thoughts, you don't want to leave it all behind and set out on your journey. You just want It. You want It to be handed to you on a platter. You want It to come to you. Well It...won't happen. You're just hurting yourself.
That's why I have to ask...do you have to let it linger?
This is the World
It’s hard to believe that it’s 2010 and people are still afraid to be themselves. Whether they’ve committed a social taboo, opposed popular belief or are gay, they’re all afraid to express themselves. They don’t want to come out. The “closet” is a safe, comfortable place. Yes, it may be dark, suffocating and somewhat scary, but at least they are protected from the scornful gazes, the disdainful stares, the contemptuous sneers. Why does this exist? Why are people ashamed of their own skin? Why must they wear masks?
Romeo and Juliet is seen as a beautiful, endearing story of two lovers, forbidden to be together, but going against the grain, creating controversy in order to be happy together and experience true love. This is an iconic story, one that everyone holds in high respect. Why, then, is the idea of two people of the same gender doing the same so disgusting? Here’s my answer: there isn’t a legitimate reason. People –namely children- are afraid of things that they don’t understand. Children shy away from different things, conform to the beliefs set out before them. Their favourite films include handsome men falling in love with beautiful women. It’s accepted. They believe that it is normal. But is hating other human beings due to things outside of their control normal? Hell no. Gay people don’t hurt anyone. They just live their lives, the same as everybody else. They try to survive, be happy, be accepted, yet those things, mainly the latter two, is sometimes impossible. What reasons are there to hate our same-sex-loving brethren? Religion? By admitting that God made a mistake, you are admitting that he isn’t perfect, thereby saying that the religion itself is flawed. What other reason can you think of? The media, perhaps? They daren’t create controversy. They’ll lose money. TV shows will lose ratings, magazines will make less sales, movies will decrease in popularity. Of course, this has not been the case recently, but only thanks to a large portion of tolerant people. There are still zombies out there, controlled by the media, afraid to speak out, to stand out, to express themselves. People must conform, otherwise, they’re unaccepted. They’re not considered part of our race.
But what about the people that can’t help but be different? What about the people that are gay and, heaven forbid, proud of who they are? Not just gay people, but everybody! The different races, people with different coloured hair, different religions, even men and women are sometimes afraid of the implications that their own genders bring about! This is not fair. This is not right. This is disgraceful.
This is the world.
- Jess X
Romeo and Juliet is seen as a beautiful, endearing story of two lovers, forbidden to be together, but going against the grain, creating controversy in order to be happy together and experience true love. This is an iconic story, one that everyone holds in high respect. Why, then, is the idea of two people of the same gender doing the same so disgusting? Here’s my answer: there isn’t a legitimate reason. People –namely children- are afraid of things that they don’t understand. Children shy away from different things, conform to the beliefs set out before them. Their favourite films include handsome men falling in love with beautiful women. It’s accepted. They believe that it is normal. But is hating other human beings due to things outside of their control normal? Hell no. Gay people don’t hurt anyone. They just live their lives, the same as everybody else. They try to survive, be happy, be accepted, yet those things, mainly the latter two, is sometimes impossible. What reasons are there to hate our same-sex-loving brethren? Religion? By admitting that God made a mistake, you are admitting that he isn’t perfect, thereby saying that the religion itself is flawed. What other reason can you think of? The media, perhaps? They daren’t create controversy. They’ll lose money. TV shows will lose ratings, magazines will make less sales, movies will decrease in popularity. Of course, this has not been the case recently, but only thanks to a large portion of tolerant people. There are still zombies out there, controlled by the media, afraid to speak out, to stand out, to express themselves. People must conform, otherwise, they’re unaccepted. They’re not considered part of our race.
But what about the people that can’t help but be different? What about the people that are gay and, heaven forbid, proud of who they are? Not just gay people, but everybody! The different races, people with different coloured hair, different religions, even men and women are sometimes afraid of the implications that their own genders bring about! This is not fair. This is not right. This is disgraceful.
This is the world.
- Jess X
Thursday, 17 December 2009
Loss
The funny thing about losing somebody you love is that your whole world seems to crash around you, yet it affects nobody but you. You're shocked, you're upset, you're angry. You want them back and you miss them, but everyone else...they're fine.
Today I was on facebook when I read some people's statuses. I'm not sure why, but I was mildly surprised that they were...normal. They were happy and...NORMAL. It was only then that I realised that the loss is only my own and my family's. I may be mourning the death of my grandad, but my aquaintances aren't. They didn't know him and, though it seems difficult to believe, they didn't care about him. Perhaps they care about me and my feelings, but not my grandad. And that's okay.
The world doesn't revolve around me. When I'm sad, not everyone else is. If I cry, other people don't. When I'm in mourning, other people aren't, and I was foolish to assume that they would be. It's just difficult to imagine a normal world where everything's okay, but in a way...it's reassuring. It's comforting to know that the world goes on and that we humans carry on.
It's only now that I fully appreciate Gerard Way's words : "We'll carry on, we'll carry on, and though you're dead and gone believe me, your memory will carry on."
We will all love and miss you forever, grandad.
Today I was on facebook when I read some people's statuses. I'm not sure why, but I was mildly surprised that they were...normal. They were happy and...NORMAL. It was only then that I realised that the loss is only my own and my family's. I may be mourning the death of my grandad, but my aquaintances aren't. They didn't know him and, though it seems difficult to believe, they didn't care about him. Perhaps they care about me and my feelings, but not my grandad. And that's okay.
The world doesn't revolve around me. When I'm sad, not everyone else is. If I cry, other people don't. When I'm in mourning, other people aren't, and I was foolish to assume that they would be. It's just difficult to imagine a normal world where everything's okay, but in a way...it's reassuring. It's comforting to know that the world goes on and that we humans carry on.
It's only now that I fully appreciate Gerard Way's words : "We'll carry on, we'll carry on, and though you're dead and gone believe me, your memory will carry on."
We will all love and miss you forever, grandad.
Sunday, 13 December 2009
M.T.Slasher
Well, I'm new to this blogging stuff and I don't really have any idea what to do, so I'm going to do what all successful people do: copy off the people before me.
I'll start by mimicking Mr. Melvin T. Slasher and explaining the reasons why I'm suddenly inspired to bore the internet with my tedious monotony. There is no exciting, elaborate reason behind it, I'm doing this simply because Mel is doing it and it seems like an interesting waste of time.
This is a kind of introduction, an awkward "hi...can I sit here?" into the world of blogging in hope that I may be accepted into your community. If not, then screw you, I'm staying anyway.
I don't really have much to say at the moment, except "hi" to anyone that may be reading and also "GO JOE!!! You are amazing (and very hot! ;D)"
Thanks for reading,
-Jess X
I'll start by mimicking Mr. Melvin T. Slasher and explaining the reasons why I'm suddenly inspired to bore the internet with my tedious monotony. There is no exciting, elaborate reason behind it, I'm doing this simply because Mel is doing it and it seems like an interesting waste of time.
This is a kind of introduction, an awkward "hi...can I sit here?" into the world of blogging in hope that I may be accepted into your community. If not, then screw you, I'm staying anyway.
I don't really have much to say at the moment, except "hi" to anyone that may be reading and also "GO JOE!!! You are amazing (and very hot! ;D)"
Thanks for reading,
-Jess X
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