Do You Have to Let it Linger?

Two blog posts in one night! Woot! I'm on fire!

This blog is actually aimed at someone. Someone that probably won't read this, but it can apply to everyone, really.

People linger too much. They linger on the past, always wondering "What if I did it differently? What if this happened? What if that didn't? Where would I be today? Would I be better off?" People linger on the present. Constantly thinking "how could things be different? Why isn't my life like this? Why did this have to happen? Why?". And of course...the future. "Will this happen? Is this possible? What will tomorrow bring?"

But that's not necessarily the point I want to make. People are so wrapped up in their thoughts, myself included, that they miss the most important things in their lives. They wish that they had never lost contact with that one friend, forgetting that they have other amazing friends. They wish that they had never admitted that one secret, not realising the weight that had been lifted, the strain that they had been relieved of. But mainly, they're so wrapped up in worry and thoughts about themselves that they don't stop to consider other people. You're not the only person hurting right now. You're not the only person that doesn't have everything they want. In fact, you're hurting other people. You're putting pressure on other people, making them uncomfortable, making them angry. You can't help it. We wish you had control over your feelings, but we know that you don't. We just wish that you'd stop being so selfish for one moment to think about the effects that you're having on your peers.

Of course, our anger and discomfort isn't all selfish. We're hurting for you. We're angry because your attitude prevents you from letting go, from taking everything in your stride, for lingering too much on things that...aren't. Please, focus on the good things in your life. We know that you crave change. We know that you're willing to do almost anything to get what you want, but you're praying for the impossible. Just be happy with what you have. Live your life, have no regrets, stop living in your fantasy world in which everything goes exactly how you want it to.

This is the cold, hard truth. It isn't going to happen. I know that your aspirations are high, that you assume that everything is going to work itself out, that you're going to achieve everything that you set your mind to, but failure exists. This is not just a reason to try harder, but a reason to give up. The world isn't a good place. You're not going to soar through it. It's a struggle, a "climb", if you will. Deep down you know that. You know that what you desire the most in the world, quite frankly, isn't going to happen. But you decieve yourself into thinking that it will. That's why you're lingering. You don't want to bury your feelings, you don't want to hide your thoughts, you don't want to leave it all behind and set out on your journey. You just want It. You want It to be handed to you on a platter. You want It to come to you. Well It...won't happen. You're just hurting yourself.

That's why I have to ask...do you have to let it linger?